3 - A kolaveri Movie

I don’t comment on movies that I see atleast don’t blog about it, but today after seeing this movie 3 (tamil) felt like talking about it. I am not expert to judge the movie on direction, screenplay, music etc etc, but as an individual i get very emotional on watching movies because I tend to relate myself and get so involved when I watch movies like this.

The movie starts with a schoolgoing kid falling in love and from there it grows like usual story and the girls accepts, parents oppose and finally they get married but ya they do get married after 10 years of love so I assume they are of marriageable age. But the movie starts with the fact that the hero is dead, so from the starting we are in search of the reason as to why he died? And so is the heroine who is also trying to find out the exact reason of death and thereby flows all the flashback love story.

Hero would be suffering from some mental illness which makes him very violent, depressed and extremely happy therefore he hurts people or gets very hyper. Heroine does not understand why he is behaving so weird and gets upset all the time not knowing he is going through all this trauma, hero’s friend helps him get treated by a doctor but this would not help hero recover, he is just getting worst till the end. Finally he feels suicidal and kills himself.(from when did tamil industry start killing heroes? And from when did tamil nadu start accepting such movies? )

After reading this you must be feeling what the hell is the story? It’s just a psychologically affected guy killing himself, many might not like it. But you must feel the emotions of this heroine who truly loves him and gets suddenly deprived of his love, cries for him. The hero who is not able to tell her the truth and so not to hurt her goes through hell hiding it and for the dreams that he would have had marrying his love of 10 years. The pain that they show of the guy who knows he is sick, and he knows he is feeling suicidal he wants to live, live a normal life with a girl but cannot due to some weird problems his mind has, and when the girl comes to know the truth after his death feels like hell coz she was not able to spend that last good time with him before he died. I cant say I love the movie, but it made me depressed. If this was the objective of the movie, mission accomplished!

I don’t know if it makes sense but such movies really move me so much that makes me think again and again about death, about how much we struggle for money, love, relationships and so many stupid things in life but end of all this is one fine day you are blank out of speech out of life. What’s going to happen to those who are still with life, this pain would be impossible to bear. How many things we would have thought of doing for the ones we love so much. What will happen if they just vanish one day? Life is so horrible. I was never asked if I would like to be born, and no one will ask me whether I am ok to die, what the hell? From which angle is this fair?

Made to order or made for each other?

When we were in college we would be sitting at the café coffe day discussing on all idiotic things of life be it guys, marriage, love and blah blah… we would have a list of things the guy of our choice should have starting from no smoking, no flirting, earn a 7 figure salary, modern, respectable, handsome, caring, loving, helpful, would die for us, talented, software engineer, should like shopping, should have a car…. Phew! let me stop typing the list or some guy who would read this would have got his blood pressure up by now. So that was the kind of aggregated list generally girls would have when they discuss about the ideal guy.

Well the other side of the river is no less green, I mean the list a group of guys would talk would be similar but different in terms of few aspects like say beauty, patience, maintain herself always, independent on all her work (includes shopping), looks after his parents well, not demanding, no nagging, no questions, gel well with everyone, loving, taking care (like nearest comparable - mother), wear a smile no matter what, never argue… ok this stop is for the girls whom I respect reading till here let me save their patience to read further. Ok, so what are we talking here are we deciding in buying a latest television set in the market? Then why do we have a list of features to look out for? I can’t say this is human nature coz our grandparents generation never had this list, atleast not this long to expect of a life partner, well we should accept the fact that they are happy today.

Actually speaking that generation were the greatest risk takers they all had the guts to go for a blind marriage (like our blind dates), and to the surprises of surprises they would survive the marriage till death do them apart.

So what do we have to learn from them? It does not matter whom you marry known or unknown person, it is about what you make out of the person you get in life. Its all about forgiving, teaching, learning, accepting, honesty, trust, understanding and more. But believe me its very very difficult to actually do all those things that I just wrote, if I give you an example it would be that of an overweight person who tries so hard to loose weight but just cant get the results and finally gives up. If I were to argue on the contrary on why it would not work it is because the generation we live in our thinking, our independence, financial security we have, empowerment... all this makes us stronger and makes us think why should we compromise our lives for even few years of adjusting just because once we are old we will maybe still like each other like our grandparents. Why take chances? Why waste our precious time of our life to adjust or compromise?

The modern thinking is a move on attitude which long back used to be the western world thinking, its now all over the world india is no more traditional or stuck to joint families nor a single wife/husband concept for life.

Should we feel proud that we have developed in our thinking and living and call ourselves modern or are we missing out on the values, family concept, importance of relationships that we used to have years back?

what is right? who are we to answer...but all I know is the whole world changes, and this is one such change maybe.. because if we still keep thinking the life when kings and queens ruled life was perfect, then the world never have moved to our government ruled countries. There is nothing like a perfect world, nothing like perfection, everything has to change… so stop making a feature list for living with a person, just live! Because there is no perfect husband/perfect wife.

love is simple!

I came rushing to office like usual every day morning and found my good colleague and friend panicking with the landline telephone receiver, shouting at someone for not getting something on time. I interrupted as he was putting down the receiver with dismay “what happened?” I asked. He said “these flower delivery guys are useless people”. I understood the incident when he explained in much detail that he had ordered flowers for his dear wife as she was arriving from her native after a week and I saw that even today after 3 years of being married, he sounded panicked for his gesture of love not being implemented as per plan. I decided to help him and suggested that we will go to the nearby florist and he will delivery almost immediately. We ordered red roses meanwhile he got a call from his wife that she reached home and simultaneously the flower delivery guy also left for delivery.

We had resumed work and just in half an hour my colleague got a call on his mobile and he was all blushing and laughing. No questions asked, I know the reason for all the smiles on both ends of the phone lines. Love is simple, expressing is even simpler. With simple signs of showing love why would anyone not feel happy being together? When u exactly know what makes the other one smile it will not take crossing seven hills and rivers to do that for the other.

I will narrate another incident of such bonding. We usually work late if the work calls for it and in one such cases as we were working past 6 our boss told to one of our colleague that he might need to connect back in the night for a presentation and to my shock my colleague refused, he simple said he and his wife have booked for a movie and he has to be going in there or his wife will feel bad about it. This came as a shock to me as at least if it were me I would have lied as something else, but to my surprise this came as an unexpected excuse to give a boss. My boss could not comment much about that but accept the fact that he needs to go. This colleague of mine who would work if required till anytime and complete his tasks without much a nagging but today said outright on the fact that how important family is and commitments are! I felt happy on this and also thought how many of us actually put family in front of work and dare do it when time calls for it. I am sure if he had told this truth to his wife she would have felt very happy. (Maybe when she reads this too)

Career, money, status, keeping busy all these have pushed relationships far away, love and bonding have almost vanished. But still there are some things that we see around us that make us realize love does exist in all these small things that people around us are doing.

For those of us who think work is everything have forgotten when we said ‘I love you’ and received the same from someone dear. We have completely forgot to give love. Do not stop to receive this magic from somewhere try and give it to someone today, and maybe someday it comes back to you as many flowers, smiles, hugs and love. Plant a seed today called love and who knows when it might knock at your door with flowers.

Life is much shorter than we think it is, so no point in sitting in a fully loaded apartment at the age of 40 with a benz parked outside and no one to share it with. Money can still buy you smiling women but none of it is real love, so make sure you make that precious one at your home happy today because tomorrow even if u don’t have the riches in the world you will still be RICH.